Get yourself a low maintenance friend
I think one of the greatest things about life today is the advancements we have made with technology. Because of social media and applications like Messenger and Whatsapp, it is so much easier for us to keep in contact with our friends and loved ones in real time.
Growing up, every time we moved to a new country, I would have to say bye to my friends knowing there was a possibility I may never hear from them again. Nowadays, all I really have to worry about is the time difference, and it takes me five seconds to type a quick hello to a friend that lives in another country. This also makes it really easy to keep in touch with the people I meet when I travel.
One common thing I have seen with the friends I have around the world is our friendships work great because we're all low maintenance friends. Now you may have heard people use this term before, but you might not be sure as to what this means. What is a low maintenance friend? Essentially, I define a low maintenance friend as someone you may not be in contact with all day every day, but when you do eventually catch up, you pick up right where you left off.
Here are some of the reasons why I believe you should find yourself a low maintenance friend:
1. It's okay if you aren't in constant communication with them
Sometimes we can get sucked into the daily grind. Work can take over our lives, we could be going through family problems, or maybe we're just too busy with things. Low maintenance friends will understand this. I have friends that I talk to maybe once every other month, and yet what I love about them is the fact that when we do catch up, it's like that time in between our talks didn't matter.
2. They will understand if you need to disappear
I have found that there are times when I need to distance myself from the world. When I say the world, I mean my friends, family, colleagues. Sometimes I need a break from my own life, and I need to just be alone in my room, comfy under my covers, watching reruns of Friends. I know how that feels. So whenever I have a friend that suddenly disappears for awhile, I get it. I know they aren't trying to "ghost" me. I know when they are ready, they know they can contact me. I think that's a very healthy, mature, and great kind of friendship to have.
3. They will always be there during the big moments
You may not communicate all the time, but when something big happens, they will always be there. This could be anything from a promotion to a break up. They know when you need them the most, and they won't hesitate to let you know you can always count on them. I actually experienced this recently. I had a friend reach out and her chat simply said her current relationship had ended. One message was all it took, and the rest of us in the group responded within the day with replies full of love and support and a bunch of offers to find the guy and knee him in the balls for her. I think this is a great support system to have.
4. You can talk about literally anything, no judgment
What's great about knowing someone that's low maintenance is you can pretty much talk to them about everything and anything. The sky is the limit. I've shared some crazy stories with my friends, and don't get me wrong, they'll let me know if they don't agree with something I'm doing, but I know they will always listen.
5. The best part, your friendship will most likely be drama free
Yeah we might have arguments every now and then. I think that's normal with every relationship, but I've always found that eventually we get over our differences and the friendship resumes. I have one particular friend that I met when I was still in college. We had a falling out for almost two years, then one day she messaged, we agreed to meet up, and the friendship picked up like nothing had ever happened. Obviously we mature as we get older as well, but one of the reasons why I think we're still great friends even after our falling out is because we understand that we don't have to agree on everything, we are each our own individual selves, and that is okay.
6. Your friendship has the potential to last forever
Low maintenance friendships can last a lifetime. That mutual understanding between you and your friends is something unbreakable. What's even better is as you go on with your lives, and some may move from one country to another, it gives you a reason to travel as well. Since last year alone, I had a reunion weekend with a friend in Barcelona that I hadn't seen since I was 7, I met up with a friend in Bangkok that I hadn't seen since I was 14, a friend I hadn't seen since middle school flew to meet me in Auckland. I mean it really doesn't get any cooler than that.
So go out there and find yourself a low maintenance friend. You know they'll always have your back. Do the same for them. You won't regret it. Lastly, shout out to all my low maintenance friends out there! You know who you are. I love you all.