• I Am Sam.

The power of letting go

It can be extremely hard to live in today's times. Expectations of our roles in society has changed dramatically over the last few decades. It used to be so different. Back then it was almost as if you were born into the role you were meant to play; a farmer, a knight, a noble, etc. With the push towards greater equality, we have more freedom to decide on our futures, but with this, comes more competition, and more pressures. It's easy to fall into a dark hole, a feeling where you aren't achieving everything you want to be achieving. I, myself, feel like I've been having a quarter life crisis for last three years.

It can be easy to get lost in a moment. To let our emotions dictate how we react to certain situations. We become so involved with what's going on, that sometimes our judgments can get clouded, and life can feel heavy. Stress, pressure, disappointments, all kinds of negative feelings can arise. I feel like many can relate when I say I feel lost most of the time. It's like I'm forever trying to figure my life out, and every time I feel like I'm getting somewhere, I wake up the next morning, and I feel lost once again.

I think this is where the power of letting go plays such an importance. We need to condition our minds into relinquishing any attachments to things that can bring us down. It's hard enough trying to get through life happy, what more if our sadness is self-made. So here are a few things that I think we should let go of. These are just the things that I've realised I need to focus on, and I'm sure there might be others that I'll add to the list in the future. Self development and discovery is a long road after all, and I am only at the beginning of it.


1. Let go of your attachment to material things

The problem with material things is there will always be an upgrade. You get an iPhone today, and there will be a new one out a year from now. So let go of the stress that comes with trying to stay on top of the hottest trends, and just be yourself. At the end of the day, you make memories not from the things that you have, but from the things that you do, and if these material things don't add value to your life, let go of them. Remember, less can be more.

2. Let go of the need to please people

A lot of times you'll have people in your life that will try to tell you their opinions. They can be your parents, your best friend, your significant other, anyone. And while at times, you may need to hear their thoughts, at the end of the day, it's your life, you're the one that has to live it. You can't please everyone, so your best bet is to focus on making yourself happy. Stop trying to be someone you aren't. It sounds exhausting having to carry the pressures and expectations of other people on your shoulders! So let go, be happy with who and how you are.

3. Let go of taking things personally

I've learned this through the relationships and friendships I've had with people. It's a downwards spiral when you sit there and question what went wrong, and the reality is, sometimes, you did absolutely nothing wrong. IT WASN'T YOUR ISSUE, IT WAS THEIRS. You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped, just like you can't change someone who doesn't see anything wrong with what they're doing. So if you know that you've done nothing wrong, stop defending them, and understand that maybe the problem is with them.

4. Let go of any regrets

We all have our stories. We've all been through some tough situations, and have had to make decisions that we might've done differently if we had the chance to go back and do things over. At the end of the day though, you are who you are today because of the struggles you had to go through. There isn't anything you can do to change the past. You can only accept the things that have happened, and move on to the next day. So let go of the past, let go of any regrets you may have. Take whatever lessons you can from life, and live it to the full.

5. Let go of the doubts, of the what ifs

Your biggest enemy is yourself. Every time you overthink your capabilities, you hinder yourself from potentially achieving something great. Stop doubting yourself. Stop thinking what if things don't work. If you fail, stand up and try again. At the end of the day, you won't know if you don't try. While you're at it, let go of Plan B. If you have a goal, and you know it's something you want to achieve, stop coming up with a plan B. Having a plan B only shows that you think your first plan is going to fail which in turn, means you've failed already before you've even started! I'm not saying go out there and be crazy with your decisions. You can still be calculated and realistic without cutting yourself off from achieving your dreams.

There you go! My list of things I believe we all need to learn to let go of. The power of letting go of these things can lead to a more peaceful and fulfilled life. Let me know if there are other things you believe should be added on to the list. As always, let's get through life together!